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Spiders, heights, snakes, enclosed spaces, birds, outside, clowns, commitment, bugs, dentists, sharks, public speaking, flying. Ask people what their greatest fear is and most of them will say one of these things or something very similar. And they would be wrong.
Oh sure, they may be afraid of these things but they aren’t necessarily their greatest fear. These things may just be their most socially acceptable fear. Their real greatest fear is usually at a deeper level. It is may be so deeply hidden they haven’t admitted it to themself. But their fear drives their behaviour and it is the symptoms of the fear that you can see in their actions, decisions and hear in their speech.
The reasons we don’t like to share these deeper fears with people is that we have almost no control over when we are going to be faced with them. We can hide from clowns or dentists, refuse to get on planes or speak in public. We can do everything possible to live as far away from snakes and sharks as possible. But we can’t hide from people and from life.
So what are these fears I talk about? They are things like
loss of security
These are things that people and life can throw at you at any moment, particularly at your most vulnerable moments. Sometimes these fears mask themselves and present as other things like
being a high achiever
being a door mat
pushing others away
The good news is simply that once you identify your real greatest fear, and the ways it presents itself in your life, you’ve taken the biggest step. After that it is up to you if, when and how you want to take hold of some courage and address your fears. In admitting your fear, it looses some of its control and power. You can let your fear drive you or you can choose when you use it and when you ignore or fight it. It’s your choice.
My greatest fear is failure. What’s yours? Is it one of these? (Go on vote, it’s totally anonomous).
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One of the most fascinating episodes of any series of The Biggest Loser is that one near the end where they have the contestants carry a backpack with all the weight they have lost. It’s at that point that they really start to understand the burden those extra kilos was for them. I started to come to the point about my extra weight and how much it burdens me when I moved into my home a little while ago.
As friends and family helped me pack and then carried a seemingly never-ending pile of boxes up my very steep drive way I started to think maybe I was burdened stuff obesity. Then my new home has a kitchen about the third of the size of my previous house so it became more obvious I was carrying unessential weight. And then there is the lack of storage and just a mountain of boxes to unpack. Enough is enough! It was time to get started on changing my life.
I would never, ever qualify for Your Life on the Lawn and the Hoarders crew would think I was a minimalist. In fact, even the Clutterer’s websites won’t even include me in their definitions but still, it was time to shed some extra weight.
So over this last Christmas holidays I took the first step and went through my closet and drawers and took every item of clothes that no longer fit or I haven’t worn for more than a year, bagged them up and gave them to our local charity op shop.
Several garbage bags later, and over 10 kilos of fabric, I felt lighter. It was like I had lost kilos of fat. Less stuff, only clothes I wear, neat and tidy. A wonderful way to start a new year – lighter, freer, ready.
I feel so good I’m motivated to move onto other parts of the house for a good clean out.
Is there something weighing you down? Are you ready to make a change in your life?
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