“Then the kingdom of heaven shall be likened to ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. Now five of them were wise, and five were foolish. Those who were foolish took their lamps and took no oil with them, but the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps. But while the bridegroom was delayed, they all slumbered and slept.
“And at midnight a cry was heard: ‘Behold, the bridegroom is coming go out to meet him!’ Then all those virgins arose and trimmed their lamps. And the foolish said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.’ But the wise answered, saying, ‘No, lest there should not be enough for us and you; but go rather to those who sell, and buy for yourselves.’ And while they went to buy, the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went in with him to the wedding; and the door was shut.
“Afterward the other virgins came also, saying, ‘Lord, Lord, open to us!’ But he answered and said, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, I do not know you.’
“Watch therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour in which the Son of Man is coming.” Matthew 25:1-13
Your dream comes true. You go to church looking more beautiful than most Sunday’s and the hottest guy comes in and sits right next to you! He’s single, available and appears to be everything you imagined. As you sit chatting after the service you just don’t want the conversation to end, it’s that great. You think, “I could just invite him to lunch at my house. My oldest friends are coming and I could get to know him…” the thought peters out as you remember how you left your house this morning. Messy, dirty (well not dirty, dirty but you haven’t cleaned the skirting boards like ever and you haven’t washed the windows since last spring) and it’s definitely not in the right state to sell your great housekeeping skills. Truth be told you’re just not ready for him yet.
Not ready and you’ve been single for how long? Many singles long for and dream about and even berate God for not bringing us that person of our dreams but like the five foolish virgins in Matthew 25 v 1 – 13 we don’t do anything to prepare for his or her coming. We spend hours preening in front of the mirror but put no thought into our insides – our health, our character, our obedience to God. We expect him to have a great job and a family sized dream home purchased ready for us to move into after our wedding day but we don’t practise saving our own cash or keeping our own squinty apartment clean and tidy. We daydream about the wedding and have all the details worked out but we don’t give a thought to the ever after marriage. We know what we expect him to be and do but don’t think about what he might expect from us.
For some of you it may not be a bridegroom that you dream of but a ministry, a job, a baby, a mission. Like the dream of Prince Charming, we often only think of one side of our dreams – the giddy heart and tingling hands side. Not the preparation and hard work side, not the learning to communicate, not the investing in prayer, not the moulding of our heart to be ready.
Take a moment, think it about it, and have some extra oil on hand. When the bridegroom comes, be ready, inside and out, home and work, friends, family and ministry. If you think you are ready, check with your Maker and ask Jesus what He sees in you as to what may not be ready yet.
But I can hear you saying – what if I’m ready but he’s not, what do I do then? Unless you’re 100% perfect, (and I have a sneaking suspicion you’re not), then there is always some part of you – inside or out – that could do with some work. So summon your courage and ask God what He wants you to change, then you will be closer to perfect when your dream finally does sit next you in church 🙂
What are you dreaming of? Do you think you’re ready for it yet or do you need to take action to become ready? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
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