My Greatest Fear is….

Spiders, heights, snakes, enclosed spaces, birds, outside, clowns, commitment, bugs, dentists, sharks, public speaking, flying. Ask people what their greatest fear is and most of them will say one of these things or something very similar. And they would be wrong.

Oh sure, they may be afraid of these things but they aren’t necessarily their greatest fear. These things may just be their most socially acceptable fear. Their real greatest fear is usually at a deeper level. It is may be so deeply hidden they haven’t admitted it to themself. But their fear drives their behaviour and it is the symptoms of the fear that you can see in their actions, decisions and hear in their speech.

The reasons we don’t like to share these deeper fears with people is that we have almost no control over when we are going to be faced with them. We can hide from clowns or dentists, refuse to get on planes or speak in public. We can do everything possible to live as far away from snakes and sharks as possible. But we can’t hide from people and from life.

So what are these fears I talk about? They are things like

  failure

rejection

criticism

loss of security

conflict

change

These are things that people and life can throw at you at any moment, particularly at your most vulnerable moments. Sometimes these fears mask themselves and present as other things like

being a high achiever

shyness

being a door mat

workaholic

materialism

pushing others away

perfectionism

The good news is simply that once you identify your real greatest fear, and the ways it presents itself in your life, you’ve taken the biggest step. After that it is up to you if, when and how you want to take hold of some courage and address your fears. In admitting your fear, it looses some of its control and power. You can let your fear drive you or you can choose when you use it and when you ignore or fight it. It’s your choice.

My greatest fear is failure. What’s yours? Is it one of these?           (Go on vote, it’s totally anonomous).

Question: Do you agree with me? Write your thoughts below.

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5 thoughts on “My Greatest Fear is….

  1. Very true. It’s important we recognize what our true fears are. Our greatest fears are a lot deeper than spiders or dying. They go so much deeper than that. I’m not one to be afraid of those sorts of things. Some may creep me out but fear them… No.
    If Loss on the other hand was just that & not of “security”, then that would be mine as Loss can be of so many different ways/types. Mine would be loss of a loved one & specifically those 2 closest in my heart. This is not just if they died but also if I were to loose them from my life, their hearts or thoughts. This I feel & know shows what means the most to me… My Family. Even the thought makes me feel heart sick but the best thing to do with a fear like this is to find a way to put it at ease which for me is touch. I just have to hold them & mind will rest. I hope everyone can find a way to put their fears at rest for another day

    • Great insight. Loosing a loved one from your life, especially by their choice is one of the most painful things. I understand why this is a huge fear to many and I’m thankful you’ve found a way to ease it in your life.

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  3. Great post, Gail. Fear plays a far greater role in our lives than we realize.
    People surveyed listed their number one fear as public speaking. Number two was death. So…people would rather die than get up in front of others? 🙂

    • lol. I did’t get the fear of public speaking. I love it! Particularly when I get the opportunity to tell stories on a stage 🙂
      I have no fear of death either – I’d just prefer something quick and not a long painful dying process. It’s good to have total confidence in life after death.
      Now failure – that’s a totally different story…

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