Have you ever seen Green Card? It’s a 1990 romantic comedy movie about a beautiful American girl Bronte who marries George, a Frenchman. He weds to get a Green Card as a ticket to a whole new life in the United States. And she, well, her motives for marrying a total stranger are less lofty than that. Bronte wants an apartment with a roof top garden and a greenhouse that is just out of her reach as “only married couples need apply” and she wants it for herself, husband free. So marriage certificate in hand they happily seperate for life a mere matter of minutes after meeting.
Naturally the plot leads into them having to quickly learn about each other so they don’t get caught for breaking the law. As they study one another and learn about each other’s life, they fall in love as they see past the surface level facts and likes to the heart and soul of the other person. But it is not until they are in cell like interrogation rooms being grilled by suspicious immigration officials that they realise why they love their marriage partner.
Yes I like a good romance book or movie. Even more, I like to hear real life true love stories. No two couples have the same journey to love and marriage. So I often ask people how they met, fell in love and knew they wanted to marry their spouse. I like to ask them why they fell in love with them in the first place.
When I started asking others to share their love story with me it was more for the fun of hearing a new story but over time I noticed something interesting. When a couple reminisces about how they met and why they fell in love, they get a soppy look on their face, and in sharing their story a spotlight is shone on the long distance past and the first things they loved about each other is brought back into the present. If they are together when their tale is told, they will look into each others eyes and share a smile that tells of early love and secrets left unsaid. In that moment a spark of love flashes between them.
The happiest couples I know share their story often and in the retelling they are constantly reminding themselves that their reasons for falling in love were good then and are better now.
So even if a marriage began with a reason as mundane as obtaining a Green Card or a greenhouse, when love comes along it opens ones eyes to the real gifts another has to offer.
Question: What do you think are good reasons to marry someone? Would you ever marry a stranger? Add your thoughts in the Comments below.
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